Yesterday, 11:50 AM
Hayden never thought of himself as vanilla. Probably because he wasn't exactly a one person kinda guy. Monogamy wasn't for him. But he'd been picking some very complicated people the last few months to sleep with. Making he wonder about his own kinks and likes. "We can explore power dynamics. And we probably should set up safe words. But I think there is more to it than that. Because something is making us uncomfortable doesn't me we shouldn't explore more, so a two tiered system." It was actually a thing Nox spoke of, but he wouldn't tell her that. Nox's past life was mostly with call girls -- at least his young one. His adult life was about the one night stand in a bathroom or hotel room if he wasn't serious about them. Which made what they did even more troublesome for Hayden. It wasn't either of their typical MO. He continued after the momentary thought "Kinda like a football game, or as Nox would call it soccer." Hayden rolled his eyes. "A card system. Yellow meaning we are close, not quite at a limit, but you are pushing your luck. And then red which is an immediate stop. No more. I'm done."